Shadow Tantra – Manchester

A 3-day journey facilitated by Seani Love and co-presented by Lex Ryder 

April 07-09, 2023
10am – 6pm

Our erotic shadow is often suppressed both personally and culturally. Our darker desires: to control or be controlled, to release something of our inner beast or slut; to live with wild sexual abandon and similar unrestrained impulses can bring with them levels of shame and confusion. There is a huge fear that if we explore these archetypal qualities we will become lost, out of control, shamed, disrespected, or somehow not an OK person.

And yet, these archetypes are rich sources of love, power and self-knowledge and bring with them powerful opportunities for healing, empowerment and personal growth. By exploring our erotic shadows, we are taking a lit candle into the more hidden recesses of our psyches, shining a light on our inner motivations and thus learning more about who we truly are.

In practical terms, Shadow Tantra is about combining conscious sexuality practices with mindfulness, Conscious Kink, neotantra, ritual and BDSM. We will spend the first day exploring and setting personal boundaries allowing these to come from heart and body as much as from mind. Consent and boundaries, and good communication are the foundations of this kind of work. Only once we are sure that all present are capable of expressing and asserting our boundaries, can we start to explore within the spheres of the erotic shadow using BDSM techniques.

This event is an opportunity to safely and consciously access some of our more challenging impulses and desires in facilitated exercises. To get a solid sense of the importance of boundaries, clear communication, working with energy, and in negotiating around the personal differences in level and types of activities people prefer.

Shadow Tantra offers opportunities for exploring the deepest recesses of the psyche, powerful tools of intimacy and connection as well as frivolous light-hearted fun (and everything in between!)

To book, please click here.

Facilitation Team:

Seani Love has been teaching erotic ritual techniques to clients, private groups, couples and workshops since 2010. A long-term explorer in this unique field, Seani received the prestigious industry award ‘Sex Worker of the Year’ in London in November 2015. His work combines ritual techniques, Conscious Kink, Neotantra, and many other disciplines. His sessions and workshops enable his clients to go on profound journeys into their inner worlds, helping them find power, wisdom, love, and pleasure within themselves.

Lex Ryder is a Pleasure Coach who loves nothing more than creating permissive and playful spaces for people to explore their edges and bring out the parts of themselves that are usually unseen and unexpressed. In addition to their professional training as a Conscious Kink practitioner, Dominatrix, Sexological Bodyworker, and Embodied Facilitator, Lex draws upon personal experience in alternative relating and queer communities, as well as their unquenchable geekery around all things pleasure.

Alison Pilling is a sex coach focused on helping people explore personal and erotic freedom. This important area of our lives is at heart a search for connection with self, other and spirit; opening us up to our emotions, values and limits through creative erotic expression. She started her sexuality journey midlife and has spent the last 10 years working with pioneering teachers like Betty Martin, Seani Love and Joseph Kramer, mentoring for Sexological Bodywork, all the while continuing exploring the world of conscious sexuality in myriad ways.

Ali is creator and host of The Sex Lectures, a beautiful permissive space for promoting sex-positive information and inspiration. As we can experience pleasure and healing in many ways with a focus on self-awareness, embodied consent and emotional intelligence, we can broaden the variety of what we do to make connection clear and pleasure erotic.


The long weekend will take place at The Pathways Studio in Manchester. It runs from 7th to 9th April 2023.  (Friday, Saturday and Sunday 10am – 6pm. Please arrive between 9:30 and 9:45 on the first day)

The doors will open on all days at 09.30 am for a 10 am prompt start.

Earlybird: £285 plus booking fee.

Standard Price: £325 plus booking fee

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Booking fee can be avoided by paying by bank transfer. The details can be found by clicking the above link.

A limited number of concessionary places are available at this workshop. Please get in contact with the organiser Elara if you wish to discuss concession options.

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